Yadda Ake Taba Nonon Mace Taji Dadi
Yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi yana daga cikin abubuwan da ake yawan fahimta ba daidai ba a cikin aure ko soyayya. Wasu suna ɗaukar lamarin a matsayin wasa kawai, wasu kuma suna ganin abu ne da ba ya buƙatar ilimi. A gaskiya, taba nonon mace ba wai kawai motsi ba ne, yana da alaƙa da hankali, ji, tunani, da yardar mace.
Wannan rubutu zai yi bayani dalla-dalla kan yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi ta fuskar:
- Ilimin jiki (anatomy)
- Fahimtar tunanin mace
- Girmamawa da yardar juna
- Kurakurai wanda ya kamata a guje musu
- Abubuwan da ke sa mace ta ji daɗi ba tare da cutarwa ba
Note: Duk wani kusanci tsakanin mace da namiji dole ne ya kasance bisa yardar juna da mutunci.
Ma’anar Nonon Mace Ta Fuskar Ilimi
Nonon mace ba kawai sassan jiki ba ne. A fuskar kimiyya:
- Nonon mace na da manyan jijiyoyi masu ji (nerve endings)
- Yana da alaƙa kai tsaye da hormones
- Yana da tasiri ga ji da tunanin mace
Saboda haka, fahimtar yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi yana farawa ne daga fahimtar cewa kowane nono yana da bambanci daga mace zuwa mace.
Muhimmancin Yarda (Consent) Kafin Taba Nonon Mace
Kafin a shiga batun yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi, dole ne a fara da yardar mace.
Me ake nufi da yarda?
- Mace ta nuna tana so
- Ta kasance cikin natsuwa
- Ba a matsa mata ba
- Ba ta jin tsoro ko tilas
Idan babu yarda:
- Duk wani taba nono ba zai haifar da daɗi ba
- Zai iya haifar da ƙunci, tsoro ko rashin jin daɗi
Fahimtar Halayen Mace Kafin Taɓawa
Daya daga cikin manyan kuskure shi ne taɓa nonon mace ba tare da lura da yanayinta ba.
Alamomin mace na jin daɗi:
- natsuwa
- murmushi
- Son kusanci
- Tana nuna jindadin taɓawa cikin sauƙi
Alamomin rashin jin daɗi:
- Tana janye jikinta
- Tana shiru
- Nuna rashin kulawa
Idan mace ba ta cikin yanayi, ko da ka san yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi, ba zai yi aiki ba.
Ilimin Jijiyoyin Nono Da Tasirinsu
Nonon mace na da:
- Jijiyoyi masu yawa
- Tsoka masu laushi
- Fata mai matuƙar ji
Saboda haka:
- Ƙarfi mai yawa na iya cutarwa
- Motsi mara hankali na iya sa rashin jin daɗi
- Sauri ba tare da shiri ba yana rage jin daɗi
Yadda Ake Taba Nonon Mace Taji Daɗi A Hankali
1. A fara da taɓawa a hankali
Ba a fara da matsa nono kai tsaye ba. A ilimi:
- A fara da taɓa kafada
- A bi zuwa wuya
- A sauko a hankali
Wannan yana taimaka wa jikin mace ya shirya.
2. Amfani da nutsuwa ba ƙarfi ba
Daya daga cikin sirrin yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi shi ne:
- Laushi
- Natsuwa
- Daidaito
Nonon mace ba abu ba ne da ake matsawa kamar roba.
3. Fahimtar bambancin nono
Wasu mata:
- Sun fi jin daɗi idan an taɓa saman nono
- Wasu ƙasan nono
- Wasu tsakiyar nono
Babu hanya guda da ta dace da kowa.
4. Sauraron jikin mace
Jikin mace yana magana:
- Idan ta numfasa da sauri
- Idan ta matsa kusa
- Idan ta natsu
Duk waɗannan alamomi ne da ke nuna kana bin hanya mai kyau.
Kurakurai Da Yawa Suke Yi
Matsa nono da ƙarfi
Gaggawa
Rashin tambaya
Kwaikwayon abin da aka gani a fina-finai
Rashin kulawa da yanayin mace
Waɗannan duk suna sa yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi ya zama akasin haka.
Bambanci Tsakanin Jin Daɗi Da Raɗaɗi
Wasu suna tunanin:
“Idan mace ta yi shiru, tana jin daɗi”
A’a.
Mace na iya yin shiru saboda:
- Tsoro
- Kunyar magana
- Rashin jin daɗi
Saboda haka, tattaunawa tana da muhimmanci.
Muhimmancin Tattaunawa Tsakanin Ma’aurata
Daya daga cikin ginshiƙan yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi shi ne:
- Tambaya
- Sauraro
- Fahimta
Tambayoyi kamar:
- “Kin ji daɗi?”
- “Hakan yana miki daɗi?”
Ba rauni ba ne, hikima ce.
Tasirin Hankali Da Yanayi
Yanayi yana da matuƙar tasiri:
- Gajiya na rage jin daɗi
- Damuwa na hana nutsuwa
- Rashin tsaro yana kashe sha’awa
Ko ka san yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi, idan hankalinta ba ya nan, ba zai yi tasiri ba.
Kula Da Lafiyar Nono
Wani muhimmin bangare na ilimi:
- Kada a taba nonon da rauni
- Kada a taba nonon da ciwo
- Kada a yi wasa da nonon da ke da matsala ta lafiya
Idan mace ta ce tana jin zafi, a tsaya nan take.
Yadda Girmamawa Ke Kara Jin Daɗi
Mace na jin daɗi sosai idan:
- An girmama ta
- An saurare ta
- Ba a wulakanta jikinta ba
Wannan yana sa yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi ya zama abu na kusanci, ba amfani da jiki kawai ba.
Rawar Nonon Mace A Jindaɗin Jiki Da Hankali
A ilimin jima’i da lafiyar aure, nonon mace yana taka rawa biyu:
- Ta fuskar jiki (physical sensation)
- Ta fuskar tunani (emotional response)
Wannan yana nufin cewa idan ana magana akan yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi, ba wai magana ce kawai akan hannaye ba, har da yadda zuciyar mace take karɓar wannan kusanci. Idan mace ba ta ji aminci ko kulawa ba, jikin ba zai amsa yadda ake tsammani ba.
Bambancin Jin Nonon Mace Daga Mace Zuwa Mace
Wani babban kuskure shi ne ɗaukar cewa:
“Abin da ya yi wa mace A daɗi, zai yi wa mace B”
A zahiri:
- Wasu mata suna da nono mai matuƙar ji
- Wasu kuma jin yana matsakaici
- Wasu ba sa jin daɗi sosai idan ba su cikin yanayi
Saboda haka, sanin yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi yana buƙatar koyon jikin mace ɗaya bayan ɗaya, ba amfani da ƙa’ida ɗaya ba.
Tasirin Hormones A Jin Daɗin Nono
Hormones suna taka muhimmiyar rawa sosai lokacin:
- al’ada (period)
- ciki
- shayarwa
- gajiya ko damuwa
A wasu lokuta:
- Nonon mace kan yi matuƙar ji
- A wasu lokuta kuma kan yi zafi ko rashin daɗi
Saboda haka, mutum mai fahimta zai lura da lokaci da yanayin mace kafin ya yi taɓawa, domin wannan shi ne ginshiƙin yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi ba tare da cutarwa ba.
Muhimmancin Hankali Da Nutsuwa Kafin Taɓa Nono
Ba a taba nonon mace cikin gaggawa. Hankali yana buƙatar:
- Natsuwa
- Shiri
- Jituwa
Idan aka yi taɓawa cikin gaggawa:
- Jiki ba zai shirya ba
- Jijiyoyi ba za su amsa ba
- Jin daɗi zai ragu
Saboda haka, a ilimi, ana koyar da cewa hankali yana buɗe ƙofar jin daɗi kafin jiki.
Yadda Yanayin Zama Ke Tasiri Ga Jin Daɗi
Yanayin da mace take ciki yana da matuƙar tasiri:
- Tsabta
- Tsaro
- Sirri
- Nutsuwa
Idan mace tana cikin:
- Tsoro
- Hayaniya
- Rashin jin aminci
Ko da ka san yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi, yanayi zai hana jin daɗin bayyana.
Amfanin Taɓawa Mai Sannu-Sannu
A ilimin jiki, ana kiran wannan gradual stimulation:
- Taɓawa mai sannu-sannu na ba jijiyoyi lokaci
- Yana ƙara saƙon jin daɗi zuwa kwakwalwa
- Yana rage yiwuwar jin zafi
Wannan hanya ce mai muhimmanci a cikin yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi ta hanyar da ba ta cutarwa.
Bambanci Tsakanin Taɓawa Da Matsa
Mutane da yawa suna rikicewa:
- Taɓawa ≠ matsa
Taɓawa:
- Nutsuwa ce
- Kulawa ce
- Sarrafa motsi ne
Matsa Na:
- iya jawo raɗaɗi
- toshe jin daɗi
- jawo tsoro
Don haka, fahimtar wannan bambanci shi ne ginshiƙin yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi a ilimi.
Sauraron Martanin Jikin Mace
Jikin mace yana bayar da saƙonni:
- Canjin numfashi
- Motsin jiki
- Sauyin murya
- Shiru ko magana
Mutum mai fahimta zai karanta waɗannan alamomi, domin su ne ke nuna ko hanyar da ake bi tana dacewa ko a’a.
Lokutan Da Ya Kamata A Dakata
A ilimi, ana koyar da cewa dakatawa wani ɓangare ne na kulawa:
- Idan mace ta nuna rashin jin daɗi
- Ko ta ce a tsaya
- Idan jikinta ya nuna bata so
Dakatawa ba rauni ba ne. A’a, hujja ce ta fahimtar yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi ta hanya mai lafiya.
Rawar Magana Mai Tausayi
Magana mai laushi:
- Tana kwantar da hankali
- Tana ƙara jin aminci
- Tana sa mace ta bude zuciya
A wasu lokuta, magana mai kyau tana da tasiri fiye da taɓawa kanta wajen yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi.
Bambanci Tsakanin Soyayya Da Amfani Da Jiki
Soyayya:
- Kulawa
- Fahimta
- Haƙuri
Amfani da jiki:
- Gaggawa
- Rashin sauraro
- Rashin la’akari
Idan taɓawa ta fito daga soyayya, mace za ta fi jin daɗi sosai.
Tasirin Girmamawa Ga Jin Daɗi
Mace tana jin daɗi sosai idan:
- An girmama jikinta
- An mutunta ra’ayinta
- An saurari bukatunta
Wannan yana tabbatar da cewa yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi ba aiki ne na hannu kaɗai ba, aiki ne na zuciya da tunani.
Kammalawa
Yadda ake taba nonon mace taji dadi yana buƙatar:
- Ilimi
- Fahimtar jiki
- Girmamawa
- Sauraro
- Hakuri
Ba hanya ɗaya ba ce ga kowa, kuma ba gaggawa ba ce. Duk lokacin da aka haɗa hankali da jiki da zuciya, jin daɗi zai kasance na gaskiya da karin lafiya.